Have I Told You Lately That I Love You?

I read The Five Love Languages Of Children by Gary Chapman, Ph.D and Ross Campbell, Ph.D when I was a trainee school counsellor. The book essentially explains and illustrates how each child expresses and receives love through one of five different communication styles. And if parents discover their child's primary love language, they can learn to convey their unconditional love, respect and commitment more effectively. Discipline, learning and anger are also discussed in relations to the five love languages. It is quite a good read.

In a nutshell, the five love languages of children are:-

• Physical Touch
• Words Of Affirmation
• Quality Time
• Gifts
• Acts Of Service

So how to discover your child’s primary love language then? According to the authors, you can try the following ways:-

• Observe how your child expresses love to you and others
• Listen to what your child requests most often
• Notice what your child most frequently complains about
• Give you child a choice between two options

I think Sophie's primary love language may be "physical touch" or "quality time". She loves it when we hug and kiss her or when we do physical play with her. She also often tries to capture our attention and maintain good eye contact with us.

If anyone would like to read more about "The Five Love Languages" or take test to discover your own love language, visit http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/.